The Energetic Impact of Bad News

A friend shares about another friend’s illness, a breakup or the rude cashier. Bam, you are impacted! Perhaps there is a sinking feeling in your gut. Or maybe your head suddenly feels confused with a slight spinning sensation.  You have just taken on some bad news.

Here are 3 ways you may react:

The Energetic Dump:  I call a few friends and blow off steam. If so, you are now dissipating the energy, so you don’t have to feel it anymore.  But, now you have passed it on to your friends.  Probably not the gift they wanted to receive from you.

Dump Truck 1b

I’m not saying don’t call your friends. But, there is a way to be conscious about your life and also a way to shift patterns that aren’t serving your evolution.  Are you just spreading negativity or do you really want some compassion and insight from your friend? Before you call your friends, give yourself a chance to sit with the news and see if you can discover why it is bothering you.

Maybe you heard that John’s boss criticized his work. If this really affects you, then it is more about you than John.  Perhaps you feel a lack of appreciation at your own job or it reminds you of your father criticizing your school grades.  If you jump on the phone quick, you may miss out on the deeper meaning of your upset.

The Numb Out:  I distract myself with TV, gaming, shopping or food. Congratulations, you don’t feel it anymore, but unfortunately the energy is still there.  It takes a lot of addictive habits to keep pushing something out of our awareness.

Society sends the message to avoid feelings at all cost.  One of the blessings of being human is to feel. Otherwise, be a goldfish.  If you give yourself time to open up to the discomfort or pain, the feelings may actually transform in less than 2 minutes. Shocking, but true. It’s the resistance that builds the energy and the emotion into something intolerable.  Return your emotions to their fluid state so they can flow out of you.

Black Hole in the universe

The Bottomless Pit:  I keep thinking about it until I am overwhelmed and then become hopeless about the situation.  This is really a difficult place to be as hopelessness causes inertia, which can cause depression.

Know your tolerance.  If you are the bottomless pit, then limit exposure to the news and to draining people.  Recognize that you are heading toward the pit, and firmly decide to shift out of it.  You are probably very compassionate by nature, which is a beautiful gift. No one is helped by another person’s hopelessness. If I find myself in the pit, I write until a spark of wisdom lifts me up from the pit.  Knowing that this is your tendency will allow you to catch yourself before you fall into the pit.

A Healthier Option – Don’t take it on!  Don’t allow yourself to be swamped by negativity.   When you speak to someone, feel the space between you.  If you are moved by something they share, then allow your heart to feel it. If you sense negative vibes, feel the “NO” in your body and keep your boundary up. Don’t let the negativity seep into your system. You are on your way to energetic health!

4 comments

  1. Anonymous · · Reply

    I don’t want to be a goldfish. Not that there is anything wrong with being a goldfish. I love goldfish.I just love that comment though, made me laugh out loud.

    1. And your post made me laugh!

  2. Yes, I agree with allowing the feelings to flow. It’s funny that I found this because I just wrote a blog article and it was about the same subject. I will leave a link here for you to read it if you would like. I love all of your blogs. They are very helpful and positive. Thanks for sharing….http://karenhigginsbrown.wordpress.com/2012/05/09/the-tip-of-the-iceberg-with-emotions/

    1. Thanks for the link. I will definitely check out your article! I guess we are on the same wavelength!

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